Imagine you are starting your day, after a night of getting awakened 4-6 times during the night. Don’t need to imagine it? This is your reality? You’ve come to the right blog.
Young children wake throughout the night, and often want some help getting back to sleep. This is normal behavior, but when it happens night after night, and the frequency is more than once or twice, it can take a toll on our ability to function during the day.
I know it can be hard to reach out for support when you feel like you should be able to figure out how to help your child sleep through the night. There can be a lot of judgement of ourselves when our kids struggle with sleep. But this kind of thinking gets in the way of being able to determine if support is needed, and then getting that support.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, or defeat. It is a sign that you recognize that parenting can be challenging, and it can go more easily with information, suggestions, and someone you can talk to about what is happening with your child’s sleep.
Encouraging your child to find their own way back to sleep when they wake is not about letting them cry hysterically alone in their room. It’s about knowing that they are capable of this skill, and can learn what to do to settle themselves. It’s about knowing how important it is for you to get enough sleep too.
Of course there will be times when you need to attend to your child throughout the night. If they are sick, or have a growth spurt, or developmental leap, or are teething, or hurting in some way, these are all times when you will be up at night. But if you are up too many nights in a row and for weeks and months on end it can take a toll on your health and well being.
For those of you who are very independent and don't like to ask for help, it can be tough to accept that support is needed. If you can, reframe it so it feels less about giving up and more about reaching out. We are stronger when we accept our limits and are proactive in getting our needs met. It will ultimately mean your child’s needs are met too.
There is a lot of information out there in the world of sleep, and it can be confusing trying to figure out what will work best for you and your child. That’s where working with a sleep consultant can be so helpful. Don’t wait until you are so exhausted you can’t function. Reach out for support and climb out of that sleep deficit hole. I’m happy to be a part of your sleep support team!